We all feel it. Those moments where you just don't know what to do. It washes over you like a heavy dark cloud. There is too much going on, you're exhausted, tired, stressed out and you can't think straight. There's so much to do, without even thinking about what you would like to do just for you.
And worst of all you're stuck in your own head listening to the never ending inner voice on constant play saying things like...."you know you shouldn't be eating that" or "I'm too tired to exercise" or "I'll start next week".
Your head is spinning around in circles.
You are caught in the grips of overwhelm.
You're motionless. Completely stuck.
Trapped, feeling like there's no way you'll ever be able to do what it is that you really want.
Mulling and thinking things over and over keeps us stuck
Usually out of fear, uncertainty and overwhelm. It shows up as that feeling of frustration and you analyse it over and over in your mind. It shows up as inaction due the feeling that there's just no time for me. It might be a fear of letting yourself down, a sense of deep disappointment with yourself, again. And all too often we remain stuck because of that icky feeling we get when thrown into discomfort. So you avoid at all costs. For the pain of failure, disappointment and discomfort is too much to handle on top of the exhaustion. And it's easier to just carry on carrying on feeling much less that what you desire.
Does any of this sound familiar? Yep, I hear you. I hear the same stories too. I've heard it all before and I still hear it today, though it certainly doesn't hold power over me like it used to.
I've been procrastinating launching this blog and website. I could have had it up a month or two ago. But I haven't, mostly out of fear of it not being perfect or good enough for my own self imposed high standards. Can you relate? You see the need for everything to be perfect is just another form of procrastination. Knowing and accepting there is no such thing as perfection, and accepting myself and where I am now, has allowed me to break the vice of procrastination to take the small steps forward each day without the expectation, pressure or stress associated with perfection. Everyday I make a choice.
So how can you move from feeling stuck, overwhelmed and motionless towards action? It's a good question and one many of us often struggle with.
Move from procrastination to action right now
- Get clear on what it is that you want - grab a piece of paper or your journal and start to write, without judgement, what it is that you want. If you're a dreamer, or visual person close your eyes, clear your mind and allow an image to form around what you want. Then write it down.
- Next come up with a couple of ideas as a starting point - you usually already have plenty of these floating around your overactive brain. Now it's time to catch them & write them down.
- Now pick one, just one that you feel at least 80% confident that you can do right now. If there are none, go back and come up with some new ideas. Break it down. Simplify.
- The next thing is to try it out - that's right DO IT. Don't think about it anymore, you're done thinking. Move on, it is action time.
The key step here is to break it so far down so that taking action is a breeze and will occur without resistance. It might be as simple as putting your running gear on as soon as you get home. That's it. Chances are if you get so far as to put your gear on you're going to get out for a workout without even needing to think that far ahead.
The experience of actually doing something provides you with an opportunity to live, breathe and feel what that feels like for you. At least then you can play around and make a conscious decision if that path of action (or inaction) is actually good for you.
The last thing for you to do is to share your action
Social accountability is key to helping you stay true to your desired actions. It becomes real when you tell someone. Let me know in the comments below your action to beat procrastination, and specifically when you are going to do it. Have fun with it, drop your expectations and see what can unfold.