How to feel better when struggling in life

How to feel better when struggling in life

It can be hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel when struggling in life. Especially if things feel hard and you can't figure out what to do or how to do it.

At times we feel trapped and stuck with so many obligations, responsibilities and expectations about how we should be living and what we should be doing and achieving in life.

Sometimes, it might feel like you're swimming against the current trying to get to a certain destination, but never seeming to "get there". And all this fighting against the current is just exhausting and wearing you down. It's only so long you can continue trying to swim up stream before you let go and simply allow the natural force and direction of the current to carry you.

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Are you too busy and overwhelmed to know what you need?

Are you too busy and overwhelmed to know what you need?

Are you too busy being busy to even stop for a moment and see how you're doing? To check in and feel how happy you are with your life and where you're at?

Are you busy rushing around 100 miles an hour?

Are you chronically busy with never-ending things on your to-do list?

Are you the first to jump to help others?

Are you the master busy multi-tasker?

Do you pride yourself on pushing on, no matter what?

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Why I don't set New Years Resolutions

Why I don't set New Years Resolutions

I used to love writing out a list of new years resolutions. Mostly based on my perceived short falls and failings from the previous year.  A vague list a mile long, full of high expectations of self, rooted in seeking some level of ideal, aiming for inevitable perfection. Often these new years resolutions were created from expectations of what I thought I should be doing and achieving. From comparison, looking outward to what was normal in society and what everyone else was doing, rather than what I actually desired. 

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4 tips to deal with uncertainty and fear of change

4 tips to deal with uncertainty and fear of change

Change can either conjure up feelings of exhilaration and excitement or utter fear, worry and anxiety.

I'll bet you can think of many changes that were exciting and many that just totally freaked you out, that you may have avoided or procrastinated on for a long time.

Dictionary version of change - an act or process through which something becomes different.

Here is my version of what change looks like
The process whereby we choose to walk directly into the uncertainty of the storm (rather than running away in fear). Carrying with us the willingness and eagerness to gather the insights, learning and wisdom, while (im)patiently waiting for as long as it takes, allowing the storm to pass without trying to control it. And in due course emerging, lighter and brighter having released some old baggage and debris, and walking out a different person more aligned with our higher/best self. 

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How I befriended my inner perfectionist

How I befriended my inner perfectionist

So it's true - I'm a recovering perfectionist...

I've lived under this intimidating inner voice that told me everything I did was never good enough for as long as I can remember.

And I'm not joking when I say NEVER. Not just some of the time - nothing was ever enough.

It went a lot like this...

"Just re-read it one more time" - where by I would always find so many more things to "improve".

"That doesn't look quite right" - so I would spend hours and hours fiddling.

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Why it is ok to feel afraid and doubt yourself

Why it is ok to feel afraid and doubt yourself

Feelings of fear and self-doubt can be debilitating and extremely overwhelming.

Often when we find ourselves frantically paddling in the deep end of these whirling emotions, we become trapped in the depths of it, going nowhere and not seeing a way out.

We become stuck there. Not moving. Ready to give in and give up.

Because we're deeply uncomfortable in this space. 
We don't like uncomfortable emotions.

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When nothing is good enough no matter how hard you try, do this instead

When nothing is good enough no matter how hard you try, do this instead

There was a young woman who went about her daily life doing what she could to please everyone.

She thrived off the validation she received for doing a good job and being useful and helpful. She was unknowingly striving to do everything perfectly to please her parents, her partner or boss and to fit in with what was expected in society.

Unbeknownst to her, she was caught up living in The Approval Trap. Yep, as if captured inside a cage, with no escape.

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