Tired of looking in the mirror and hating what you see, Let's change that

Perception is a mirror not a fact.
And what I look on is my state of mind reflected outwards
— Ralph Waldo Emerson

A son and his father were walking on the mountains.
Suddenly, his son falls, hurts himself and screams: “AAAhhhhhhhhhhh!!!”
To his surprise, he hears the voice repeating, somewhere in the mountain: “AAAhhhhhhhhhhh!!!”
Curious, he yells: “Who are you?”
He receives the answer: “Who are you?”
Angered at the response, he screams: “Coward!”
He receives the answer: “Coward!”
He looks to his father and asks: “What’s going on?”
The father smiles and says: “My son, pay attention.”
And then he screams to the mountain: “I admire you!”
The voice answers: “I admire you!”
Again the man screams: “You are a champion!”
The voice answers: “You are a champion!”
The boy is surprised, but does not understand.
Then the father explains: “People call this ECHO, but really this is LIFE.
It gives you back everything you say or do.
Our life is simply a reflection of our actions.
If you want more love in the world, create more love in your heart.
If you want more competence in your team, improve your competence.
This relationship applies to everything, in all aspects of life;
Life will give you back everything you have given to it.”

Your life is not a coincidence, it is a reflection of you

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Living life with awareness is the most profound catalyst for positive change!

Our opportunity to learn and grow to live a happy and magnificent life lies in recognising that the outside world is a reflection of our inner world. It's through the way we see, think, act or react in the outer world we are fortunate enough to realise through reflection, what state of mind we are operating within.

In the past I found my life and the world to be a stressful place, especially travelling in and out of the city. Now I find my world to be a peaceful place. Nothing in the environment changed. People still hustle and bustle through the city. Simply my inner state changed and as a reflection I now find myself operating in the same environment, in a peaceful way.

How do you see or feel about yourself?

Notice the thoughts and voices running through your mind when you think about yourself or look at yourself in the mirror. It is a voice of love, acceptance and kindness or is it a harsh voice of criticism and judgement?

The answer to this question provides huge value to you.

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How you view yourself is not fact or truth.

Ten different people will look at you and see you through ten different lenses. Not one person is right or wrong. Each individual viewpoint is based on subconscious values and beliefs and the way information is filtered and processed in the brain so that we can quickly make sense of the world. In fact, millions of bits of information are coming in through all of our senses in every given second for processing. Our brain filters this information by deleting, distorting and generalising based on our memories, values and beliefs, otherwise we would be bombarded with sensory overload.  

So if how you view yourself doesn't feel good and is not fact or truth you have the right and the power to choose to see yourself in a way that feels good to you. 

When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.
— Dr Wayne Dyer

How you perceive on the outside reflects how you feel on the inside 

How you view yourself and in particular others is a mirror reflection of how you feel about yourself inside. For example the thoughts you have when you look at yourself in the mirror, or at another woman reflect your inner state of mind.

If you are unkind, critical and judgmental towards yourself and others, you will behave and act in ways that are unkind to yourself and attract people and situations into your life that are also unkind and critical of you.

Unkindness within results in unkind treatment of yourself

Unkindness to self may present in your life in many different ways.

Here are some examples: Strict diets and deprivation, followed by episodes of binge eating and falling off the wagon. Rigid exercise regimes. Extreme pressure and expectations placed on yourself. Disappointment when you don't meet your expectations. Beating yourself up for not getting everything done. Trying to control everything so you can't fail. Not listening to the warning signals that your body is tired, stressed and exhausted. Striving to be all things to others at the expense of yourself and your needs. These are just some examples of ways in which we can be unkind and not loving to ourself.

On the flip side

kindness and love within results in kind and loving actions and treatment towards yourself 

I know when I'm being kind and loving to myself because I feel good about myself.

Anytime I don't feel good I choose to witness my thoughts and behaviours and seize the opportunity to stop the self criticism and judgement and choose love and kindness instead. That is the work. It is that simple. Not always easy. We have the free will to make that choice, if we want to free ourselves from the path of self destruction, constant criticism or self-judgement.

The list is endless as to how this may look when we begin being kind and loving to ourself. 

Treating and taking care of yourself as though you are a goddess. Admiring your body as a beautiful temple. Allowing yourself to do things that fill you with joy. Taking time to appreciate yourself. Slowing down to respect and listen to your needs. Letting go of pressure and stress and accepting yourself as and where you are. Eating to nourish your mind and body. Moving and exercising for health, energy and vitality. Showing kind words and thoughts towards yourself especially during challenging times. Putting your basic needs first so you can be of better service to family, friends and others.

I write from my own experience as I've journeyed from complete unawareness of the the lack of kindness, love and respect I was once showing myself to becoming the source of love and kindness within. Such an inner change as this, has had a profound impact on how confident I feel about myself, how content I am in my skin, how I no longer obsess about food and exercise and no longer judge my body - which means I have more head space, time and energy for more important things in life - like doing what I love.

Reclaiming your power means being willing to look at all the ways you may not be treating yourself with the kindness, love and respect you deserve and desire.

If you're eager to find out how you can learn to change your life from the inside out and reclaim your happiness and power then sign up for my free 3 part video series HERE to help you get started now.

Please share your comments below what new realisations have you had and how are you going to treat yourself with more love, kindness and respect?