Why being overly independent and highly capable might be wearing you down

Why being overly independent and highly capable might be wearing you down

Many of us admire and look up to the women who are highly capable, independent and strong.  We praise her, for juggling all the balls in her life and holding everything together while being there for everyone else.

We glorify self-sacrifice, getting on with it, holding it together and showing no signs of weakness.

But let's get real here. I want to peel back what's happening under the surface for these woman, who might be you.

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How to trust yourself when making decisions

How to trust yourself when making decisions

I always struggled to make decisions.

So I diffused responsibility to others.

I was easily swayed by others and thought it was a great quality that I was easy going and would just go with the flow. Despite the fact that under the surface I often felt resentful and angry doing things I didn't want to do - but I never understood why. 

I let other people make decisions for me and looked to see what everyone else was doing as a measure of what I "should" do.

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Why striving to be perfect is stealing your magic

Why striving to be perfect is stealing your magic

Conflict and struggle in your life is often a battle between your idealised self and your true self. 

The idealised self - is the person you want the world to see. 

The perfect, beautiful, smart, successful, healthy, happy person. This is the self you portray to the world as a way of gaining status, validation, love and approval. 

The real self - is the divine part of you that is already perfect, whole and complete.

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Why being a kind and helpful person can leave you feeling worn out and exhausted

Why being a kind and helpful person can leave you feeling worn out and exhausted

t’s exhausting trying to be perfect and be all things to everyone. Especially living with that critical voice inside your head that’s always carrying on letting you know that you’re not good enough.

You’re a woman with standards. You like to have everything together, organised, beautiful, sparkly and clean all at the same time.

You’ve also got a big, giving heart and you love to help others.

You give, give and give some more.It feels like something is missing.

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